We have a situation with Anxiety today and perhaps it’s been with us and has been carried over from the generations before us.
The Effects of Emotional Neglect we continually experience in Adult Relationships that I feel have been developed through our Defensive Compensations where we “Carry the Legacy of Burdens”, from our own ancestral programming. The following is some information I found provided by the Polyvagal Theory of Traumas.
- Systematic Trauma – Ancestral imprisonment, political control, colonization, racism, sexism, patriarch, slavery and terrorism.
- Transgenerational Trauma – torture, refugee, violent events, medical procedures, chronic illness, sexual, physical and emotional abuse, pandemic, disease, poverty, immigration.
- Developmental trauma – happens during childhood, prenatal birth, during brain development, trusted person betrayal, attachments (avoidant/anxious), grief/loss, neglect, separation.
- Defensive Compensations – dysregulation, shut down, dissociation, overwhelm, chronic attachment issues, chronic stress, physical body pain/change.
We’ve been taught to “Fix It”, through our mind instead of our “feeling” sensors. Intelligence doesn’t cure Anxiety alone. You can read as many SELF-HELP books as you like, hours of breathwork, yoga, plant medicine, and meditation, however, it DOESN’T resolve the deep core issues underlying within the cellular memory of the body, the mind, and the soul if you can’t tap into or “drop into” your body sensations.
It’s about supporting the ALARM signals and learning how to relieve them from the “Source”.
Where do we really begin to gauge our own self-discovery to UNDO the patterning of the above Legacies of Burdening and recreating new pathways for this discovery?
Our patriarchal society has been showing us that you can have all the power, without taking any responsibility in having it.
Is this our society in people right now?
Are you confused?
We are all trying to support our disempowerment.
What age have you recessed at, (normally inner child work will iron this out) through your Defensive Compensations, that’s left you feeling like “Gimme all the power” but SOD the responsibility that comes with it and that SOMEBODY else is at fault for your unsuccess, sabotages, addictions and so on.
Explore the profound effects of Emotional Neglect in Adult Relationships:
- Higher rates of anxiety, depression and other psychiatric issues
- More frequent negative emotions like anger, guilt, shame and fear
- Higher risk for substance use disorders and addictions
- Low self esteem, high self doubt, or a lack of confidence
- Trust issues and difficulty forming close and healthy relationships
- Internalising or suppressing emotions and difficulty opening up to people
- More trouble regulating emotions, having uncontrolled outbursts
- Poor boundaries, social skills, and difficulty asking for or accepting help
- A negative self image or high levels of self criticism or negative self talk
- Increased likelihood of becoming socially isolated or withdrawn?
